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pauraque_bkis one of the useful tips of the day that you can read while the game loads. I am not sure everyone reads them guys!!
So this dude is one of the group of friends that came to this server in search of a new land of opportunity like two years ago, and I had known him for a year before that. I'd had issues with him in the past because he has a tendency to be kinda passive-aggressive and act superior to his supposed friends. This is the kind of person who will say when something comes up "Oh no, it's fine, no problem", but you know they're filing it away in their head to dredge it up and use it against you later.
He also seems to love to argue for the sake of it, rather than to actually resolve the problem. Dealing with people like that sends me through the roof. Usually when I'm having a fight with someone I'm really trying to END the fight and get to a point where we can agree to let it drop, not continue it for kicks.
Apparently he also would have endless conversations with others wondering why I didn't like him. Heh.
Anyway, we went our separate ways in the game for a while and as is typical of me, I forgot why I didn't get along with him. So when the vagaries of drama landed me back in a guild with him a year later, I was all set to be friends! And I guess we were for a while. He still had a really superior attitude which was annoying... He is one of these people who thinks he is God's gift to WoW, and we play the same class, so I always got these little passive-aggressive comments about my playing... heh. I don't know if he really thinks he's better than me or if it's just a compulsive thing he does because he's insecure.
So then the whole bear thing. There was no logical reason to tap him when I was making the group, because... we play the same class. I had another healer who I had raided with for a year, who played a complementary class, and whom I was very comfortable partnering with. There was no room.
This is where I made a big mistake. Someone told me the guy was bummed that I didn't invite him. Well, he wasn't the only one, but since I'd known him for so long I thought I'd be nice and try to get him in. I definitely should not have done this. He did end up coming a couple of times when possible, but it wouldn't have been fair to others who came first to bench them just because I was trying to assuage somebody's feelings, so... I didn't.
I didn't think too much of it because at the same time, he had gotten into another run. So if he went to mine too it was basically a bonus.
He asked me if I would give him my spot in today's run. I said no and explained why not. He emailed me back informing me that he was more deserving than others of getting in, and challenging me to prove that anyone else deserved it more. You have to wonder if this is how he handles it when he doesn't get his way in real life. (eta2: By the goddamn way, I didn't say this to him because I didn't want to bring it up, but he actually wiped the last two runs he did. So he has some gigantic balls.)
It was hard to believe that I had to explain to an adult why this was inappropriate, but I did it anyway. Probably will fall on deaf ears. Heh.
It would take way too long (too late) to explain why this is politically sensitive and how it could affect what guilds people are in when all is said and done, but in the end I just decided not to worry about that and smack him down as much as he deserved. Politely, of course.
eta: This juxtaposition of icon and mood icon has made me notice the similarity of Peanut's fake wings to priest T5 wings.
So this dude is one of the group of friends that came to this server in search of a new land of opportunity like two years ago, and I had known him for a year before that. I'd had issues with him in the past because he has a tendency to be kinda passive-aggressive and act superior to his supposed friends. This is the kind of person who will say when something comes up "Oh no, it's fine, no problem", but you know they're filing it away in their head to dredge it up and use it against you later.
He also seems to love to argue for the sake of it, rather than to actually resolve the problem. Dealing with people like that sends me through the roof. Usually when I'm having a fight with someone I'm really trying to END the fight and get to a point where we can agree to let it drop, not continue it for kicks.
Apparently he also would have endless conversations with others wondering why I didn't like him. Heh.
Anyway, we went our separate ways in the game for a while and as is typical of me, I forgot why I didn't get along with him. So when the vagaries of drama landed me back in a guild with him a year later, I was all set to be friends! And I guess we were for a while. He still had a really superior attitude which was annoying... He is one of these people who thinks he is God's gift to WoW, and we play the same class, so I always got these little passive-aggressive comments about my playing... heh. I don't know if he really thinks he's better than me or if it's just a compulsive thing he does because he's insecure.
So then the whole bear thing. There was no logical reason to tap him when I was making the group, because... we play the same class. I had another healer who I had raided with for a year, who played a complementary class, and whom I was very comfortable partnering with. There was no room.
This is where I made a big mistake. Someone told me the guy was bummed that I didn't invite him. Well, he wasn't the only one, but since I'd known him for so long I thought I'd be nice and try to get him in. I definitely should not have done this. He did end up coming a couple of times when possible, but it wouldn't have been fair to others who came first to bench them just because I was trying to assuage somebody's feelings, so... I didn't.
I didn't think too much of it because at the same time, he had gotten into another run. So if he went to mine too it was basically a bonus.
He asked me if I would give him my spot in today's run. I said no and explained why not. He emailed me back informing me that he was more deserving than others of getting in, and challenging me to prove that anyone else deserved it more. You have to wonder if this is how he handles it when he doesn't get his way in real life. (eta2: By the goddamn way, I didn't say this to him because I didn't want to bring it up, but he actually wiped the last two runs he did. So he has some gigantic balls.)
It was hard to believe that I had to explain to an adult why this was inappropriate, but I did it anyway. Probably will fall on deaf ears. Heh.
It would take way too long (too late) to explain why this is politically sensitive and how it could affect what guilds people are in when all is said and done, but in the end I just decided not to worry about that and smack him down as much as he deserved. Politely, of course.
eta: This juxtaposition of icon and mood icon has made me notice the similarity of Peanut's fake wings to priest T5 wings.
