Having been in a position similar to your mother's (i.e. the close relative of the one going through the change), I understand how natural it is not to want someone you love to change into someone different. It's like asking someone to throw away a longstanding relationship--accurate or not, that's how it appears when you're on this end of it. Eventually, though, you're able to accept both the process and the new reality, and I think your mom would have come around in time. Especially if she could see the strain and stress it takes off you to finally be comfortable in your own skin. I could see this at work in my daughter when she finally came out. She'd been a wound-up bundle of frustration for several years before that, and now she's loosened up so much. She seems genuinely happy for the first time in longer than I can remember. And that makes me happy and relieved for her.
All the best with your surgery. I'll have you in my thoughts.
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Date: 2011-08-23 04:22 am (UTC)All the best with your surgery. I'll have you in my thoughts.