open and shut
Sep. 6th, 2008 12:54 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pauraque_bkI am fairly inured to my boss's incessant aggression -- she has been known to make her other employees cry -- which has been an interesting exercise in ignoring a bully. It's quite hard to take seriously an adult who behaves like a child, but lately she seems to have caught on that I feel that way, complaining that I "don't care" about what she is saying. At any given moment she's probably right. I don't care. I tune it out because it's nonsense.
However. Today she was working at the other store, and called to bother and screw with me so many times that I finally had to call the manager of that store (her superior) and tell him she was doing it and not to let her call me anymore. He said he thought she was "bored". Yes, I'm sure she was. She must have had nothing to do, that she had to entertain herself harassing me until I couldn't take it anymore. After telling her repeatedly that I was in a bad mood, felt sick, it was very hot in the store, and that this was a bad time to mess with me.
I told him all this and he said she wouldn't call me again. She did not.
I left her a note which said something like:
I need you to recognize when I can't take any more aggression. You've known me long enough to tell when I'm not okay. There's no reason to take it so far that [your superior] is getting involved. Normally it rolls off me but everyone has a limit.
In retrospect I can't really see this doing any good. It was probably the admission of weakness that made her twist the knives in the first place. There wasn't any *anger* in it. She was having fun, laughing. I'm not sure I've ever seen that kind of sadism in a grown up.
I probably should quit... but there is actually a terrible fascination to it. There but for the grace of God go I. It makes me hear myself, it makes me lower my voice. I know a lesson when I see it.
For some reason, by some workings of her life, she's built a trap. Everyone else can get out of it. She's the only one who never can.
However. Today she was working at the other store, and called to bother and screw with me so many times that I finally had to call the manager of that store (her superior) and tell him she was doing it and not to let her call me anymore. He said he thought she was "bored". Yes, I'm sure she was. She must have had nothing to do, that she had to entertain herself harassing me until I couldn't take it anymore. After telling her repeatedly that I was in a bad mood, felt sick, it was very hot in the store, and that this was a bad time to mess with me.
I told him all this and he said she wouldn't call me again. She did not.
I left her a note which said something like:
I need you to recognize when I can't take any more aggression. You've known me long enough to tell when I'm not okay. There's no reason to take it so far that [your superior] is getting involved. Normally it rolls off me but everyone has a limit.
In retrospect I can't really see this doing any good. It was probably the admission of weakness that made her twist the knives in the first place. There wasn't any *anger* in it. She was having fun, laughing. I'm not sure I've ever seen that kind of sadism in a grown up.
I probably should quit... but there is actually a terrible fascination to it. There but for the grace of God go I. It makes me hear myself, it makes me lower my voice. I know a lesson when I see it.
For some reason, by some workings of her life, she's built a trap. Everyone else can get out of it. She's the only one who never can.
